Not Sure When to Get Hitched? Look to the Skies.Words by Courtney Kellar Words and photo courtesy of Astrogrrl
It’s my great pleasure to introduce my buddy Jan aka Astrogrrl, our Anti-Bride Alterna- Astrologer, marriage muse, our bride in the sky who can help you find the best time of year to tie the knot (or not). She’s got the 411 how astral haps affect our lives. Check in with Jan before you plan. As above, so below, rock and roll!
Aside from the obvious reasons not to marry, such as you don’t really love your betrothed or are in love with another, etc., there are certain periods, astrologically speaking, that are less favorable for having the wedding ceremony that begins your life’s journey together. Let’s start with Venus. In astrology, Venus represents our relationships (of all types — intimate, platonic, familial, casual, committed, and that with the self), our material wealth, our value systems, our self-worth, our capacity to see beauty in the world, and our desires. She travels very close to the Sun (second only to Mercury) and is never more than two signs away from the Sun. Venus retrogrades every eighteen months. It is generally ill-advised to wed while Venus is retrograde. After all, she is the planet of love.
Another consideration is Mercury retrograde. In astrology, Mercury governs all manners of information gathering, processing and dissemination; mental processes; communication; commerce and trade; and transportation. He is the smallest planet our the solar system (now that Pluto has been demoted), the fastest moving planet in the zodiac, the closest planet to the Sun, and is never more than one sign away from the Sun. Mercury takes a break, slows down, and retrogrades three times a year for about three weeks. Now, Mercury retrograde is more of an inconvenience really. Miscommunication, delays, misunderstandings are common during a Mercury retrograde which could magnify an already stressful time for the bride, groom, family and friends. Having said that, a professional and thorough wedding planner would be an invaluable help in lifting much of the worry from the bride, bridal party and family.
In astrology, when a planet retrogrades, it is a time to turn the focus inward and not ideal for initiating action. For Venus, it might be a period of reflection, reconnecting, reviewing relationships, redefining worth (material worth or self-worth) and re-examining value systems. For Mercury, it could be a time of rethinking, re-planning, reorganization and reassessment.
If you find yourself with your wedding date already set during a Venus retrograde, it is best to the inner work a retrograde planet insists upon. In Venus’ case, both parties should each reflect upon and fully understand why they are getting married to this person. Take care of anything that might be a red flag. Honest and candid communication with the self and with each other should help uncover any hidden issues within the relationship.
I’m sure that there are couples who get married during a Venus retrograde that have successful marriages. Although I believe that working with the retrograde energy and each person doing the inner reflection required would greatly help the odds of happy coupling.
Venus retrograde dates are as follows (reflects North America PST):
– October 8 to November 18, 2010 ~ especially unfavorable for Scorpios and Libras born October 18 or later
– May 15 to June 27, 2012 ~ especially unfavorable for Geminis
– December 12, 2013 to January 31, 2014 ~ especially unfavorable for Capricorns
Mercury retrograde dates and factor in three days before the start & after the end dates can also be extra challenging days (reflects North America PST):
– remainder for 2010 ~ December 10 to 30
– 2011 ~ March 30 to April 23; August 2 to 26; November 24 to December 13
– 2012 ~ March 12 to April 4; July 15 to August 7; November 6 to 26
Jan aka Astrogrrl, is our marriage muse, our bride in the sky who can help you find the best time of year to tie the knot (or not). She’s got the 411 how astral haps affect our lives. Check in with Jan before you plan.
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