Destination I Do
Thursday, October 20, 2011

Destination Wedding Registry: Not-so-Crass Cash!

Words by Courtney Kellar
Words by Courtney Cox
Photos courtesy of

When people learn that I work for a destination wedding magazine, questions inevitably arise about etiquette. Weddings are one of those rare occasions when tradition takes precedence over all else. Everyone wants to be careful not to offend and to make sure their wedding meets basic protocol. Perhaps one of the most difficult questions to answer when it comes to destination weddings is, “To register, or not to register?”

Traditional gifts are difficult for destination weddings, especially if you’re getting married internationally. No one wants to carry a crock pot through customs. Very often couples will tell their guests that their attendance at the wedding is in lieu of a gift. However, guests who can’t make it, and even some who can, still want to buy a gift. So, what do you do?

A solution has recently arisen and is growing in popularity – cash gift registry websites. is one such site and allows your guests to donate cash toward any number of things you register for, from a honeymoon or home down payment to charities. The cash registry lets guests donate monetary gifts towards the things you really want, rather than the things everyone expects on a traditional registry.

The perks are two-fold, it’s easy and convenient for your jet-setting guests, and allows you to track gifts virtually and all in one place. You and your new spouse have the luxury of spending your money when, where and how you want without the hassle of returning or exchanging traditional purchases. Having a website where your guests can go to donate on a personalized wedding website is a less crass way of asking for cold-hard cash.

When you create an account with, you have the option of creating a personalized page for your wedding and are able to list your other, more traditional registries. Not sure what to register for? has more than 50 pre-made gift lists to make your set up a cinch and perhaps force you to try something new. For example, live it up as a newlywed by registering for salsa lessons!

If you’re worried about how to spread the word about your cash registry, the site has a bank of pre-written, etiquette friendly notes to help you notify your guests. Better yet, the site allows you to easily keep track of who gifted what and whether you’ve sent out your “thank you” yet. Guests can also get in on the fun by using the site's time delay feature and keeping their gift to you a surprise until after the big day. They can even easily print out a gift-certificate to present to you in person.

So, once you’ve received all this money towards fabulous activities, how do you cash out? Through you can redeem your money as often as you want via a free direct deposit, personal check or Visa gift card. When it comes to your destination wedding and registry, don’t be so afraid of breaking tradition that you don’t get what you truly desire in the end. Odds are there’s a classy, etiquette-friendly way to get what you want.

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