Ideas For Personalizing Your Queer Wedding


June 8, 2023
Words by Jessie Allen
Photos courtesy of various

Personalizing your queer destination wedding is an excellent way to infuse your identity, values, and love story into the celebration. We explore some creative ideas to help you make your wedding truly unique and tailored to your individuality below:

Choose an LGBTQ-friendly Destination

Selecting a destination that is known for its LGBTQ-friendly atmosphere is the first step in personalizing your wedding. Look for countries or cities that have legal recognition of same-sex marriage and embrace diversity. Popular LGBTQ-friendly destinations include places like New York City, San Francisco, Amsterdam, and Barcelona. Research local laws, traditions, and customs to ensure a welcoming environment for your celebration.

Incorporate Symbolic LGBTQ Elements

Including symbolic LGBTQ elements in your wedding decor can add a personal touch to your special day. Use the rainbow flag as inspiration for your color scheme or incorporate rainbow-colored flowers, ribbons, or table settings. You can also incorporate queer symbols like the pink triangle or interlocking gender symbols into your invitations, stationery, or cake design. These small details can make a big difference in expressing your pride and identity.

Write Personalized Vows

Crafting personalized vows is a beautiful way to share your unique love story with your partner and guests. Take the time to reflect on your journey as a couple, the challenges you’ve overcome, and the dreams you share. Incorporate LGBTQ-specific references or quotes from queer activists and role models who have inspired you. Your heartfelt vows will be a powerful expression of your love and commitment.

Photo by Jenny Quicksall // Wedding Planner: Jason Rhee

Collaborate with LGBTQ-owned Businesses

Supporting LGBTQ-owned businesses not only adds a personal touch to your wedding but also contributes to the community. Seek out LGBTQ-owned wedding vendors, such as photographers, caterers, or wedding planners, who understand the importance of LGBTQ inclusivity. Their experience and perspective can help create an event that aligns with your vision and values.

Photo by Wolfhound911

Unique Ceremony and Rituals

Consider incorporating unique ceremonies and rituals that hold significance for the queer community. For example, you could include a “Handfasting” ceremony, which is a traditional Celtic ritual where couples have their hands bound together with ribbons or cords as a symbol of their unity. Another option is a “Unity Candle” ceremony, where two candles are lit separately, and then together they are used to light a larger, central candle, symbolizing the merging of two lives.

Photo by Arina Habich

LGBTQ-themed Wedding Favors

Show your appreciation to your guests by providing LGBTQ-themed wedding favors. Consider items such as rainbow-colored or personalized pride-themed souvenirs, equality pins, or custom-designed LGBTQ-themed coasters or keychains. These small gestures will not only make your guests feel special but also serve as a reminder of the love and unity celebrated at your wedding.

By personalizing your celebration, you can create a unique and memorable experience that truly reflects your identity and values.

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