While couples are more and more increasingly choosing to put their own spins on their wedding days (we see you colorful wedding gowns, cocktail-style receptions, unique entertainment, and themed dress codes!), you might still be wondering: are ANY classic wedding “rules” still a must-follow? We’ve got you covered! Scroll down to see which wedding taboos are still a no-no, and which ones you can leave in the past!

Wearing white? YES, but…

“In general, it’s not recommended to wear white clothing or shoes to a wedding. This is the same case for attire in the solid cream color family, whereas beige is considered more of a safe bet. Guests should always err on the side of showing utmost courtesy to the couple, and since many brides wouldn’t appreciate guests wearing white, there is more downside than upside to doing so. There are exceptions, however, which enable – or possibly require – guests to wear white. For example, it’s trendy for couples to ask their guests to dress in a specific color palette, and we’ve seen white and neutrals become a popular request. A guest color palette looks fantastic in photos, and white in particular creates a striking look.” – Carrie Negri, Emily Coyne Events

Skipping wedding favors? NO.

“Giving wedding favors is also not a must anymore! It is not taboo to thank your guests in creative ways. Don’t forget, you may be asking them to travel for you, but you’re hosting a wonderful evening for them! No need to gift them useless, personalized gifts if you don’t have the means or if it does not resonate with you.” – Melanie Levin, Owner, LuckEleven Events

Taking excessive photos and videos? YES.

“While capturing memories is essential, being overly intrusive with cameras or smartphones can distract from the moment and interfere with the professional photographer’s work.” – Natasha Gillett, Natasha Gillett Photography

Wearing black? NO.

“Obviously this rule goes out the window if it’s a black tie or formal attire wedding, but as someone with a penchant for all-black outfits, I say this taboo is old and can be removed as such! Wear what makes you feel comfortable and elevated to a wedding. – Chloé Skelly, Chloe Alise Events

Leaving early? NO.

“I can completely empathize with an introverted guest who feels rather drained by an entire four + hours of activity and socializing. That said, if you need to leave the event before it’s scheduled to end, at least stay through the dance floor opening. By this time, the couple is likely finished with toasts, the special dances, and dessert has been served. This way, you’ve hit all of the special and sentimental moments, and honored the couple by staying for the majority of the event.” – Ashley Lachney, Owner of Alston Mayger Events

Bringing uninvited guests? YES.

“RSVPs exist for a reason. Don’t surprise the couple with extra attendees – it’s just rude and completely inconsiderate.” – Misty Damico, CEO & Founder, Luxe Event Productions

Skipping a gift? NO.

“Not bringing a gift or card to a wedding is no longer taboo. With registries and online services expanding, it’s much easier to send gifts ahead of time and it helps the couple keep track of all their gifts when it’s not given on the wedding day.” – Melanie Levin, Owner, LuckEleven Events

Sharing your opinion of the wedding? YES.

“Discussing your opinions on the decor or speculating how much the couple spent on the event is a conversation better left for the car, or even when you get home at the end of the night. It’s natural to be curious, but you were invited to the event to be a part of the celebration not to analyze the budget it took to bring the evening to life.” – Ashley Lachney, Owner, Alston Mayger Events

Inappropriate speeches? YES.

“Keep it classy. Avoid sharing embarrassing stories or making inappropriate jokes.” – Misty Damico, CEO & Founder, Luxe Event Productions

Photos courtesy of: Jamee Photography (1st, 4th & 7th ); LES Photography (2nd); Taylor Kinzie Photography (3rd); Mary Acosta (5th); Lovebird (6th)