Today’s Mother of the Groom takes on a dynamic role, blending tradition with modern support. As families navigate wedding planning, responsibilities and expectations can sometimes be unclear. To shed light on this evolving role, we spoke with Suzanne Reinhard of BOLD Events in Atlanta. With over 35 years of experience planning weddings, Reinhard shares her insights on how mothers of the groom can feel included and involved in meaningful ways.

How can couples ensure the mother of the groom feels included in the wedding planning process without overstepping boundaries?

“The key is open communication and mutual respect for boundaries. In traditional weddings where the bride’s family covers most costs, the groom’s mother should embrace her role as an honored guest rather than a primary planner. However, she can still contribute by offering insights on music, dietary restrictions, seating, or family traditions. The bride’s family can help by keeping her informed and allowing her input where appropriate. At the same time, the groom’s mother should be mindful of boundaries and defer to the bride and her family for final decisions.”

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What are some special roles or responsibilities that the mother of the groom can take on during the wedding day to feel more involved?

“On the wedding day, the mother of the groom’s main role is to support her son, especially during the ‘getting ready’ portion of the day when photographers capture special moments. She may also offer to bring lunch for the bridal party or coordinate refreshments for the wedding party, showing appreciation for the effort put into the celebration.”

How can couples set clear boundaries early on to prevent misunderstandings with the groom’s mother?

“Clear communication is key. Couples should kindly explain the groom’s mother’s role in the planning process and invite her to contribute in ways that feel comfortable for her. One way to make her feel involved is by allowing her to take the lead on the rehearsal dinner, giving her the freedom to plan something meaningful.”

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How can the groom support his mother if she feels left out or unsure of her role?

“The groom plays a crucial role in helping his mother understand her place in the wedding process. He should reassure her that her presence is invaluable but also clarify that the bride and her family will primarily make the decisions. If she feels uncertain or left out, he can emphasize the importance of the rehearsal dinner as her time to take the lead. By reinforcing her role as a loving and supportive figure, the groom can help his mother feel included while respecting the couple’s vision.”

What are your top tips for the mother of the groom when choosing her outfit to ensure it complements the overall wedding aesthetic?

“Communication with the bride is essential. Coordinating outfits with the mother of the bride is a great idea—while they don’t need to match, choosing complementary colors and styles helps create a harmonious look in photos. She should also consider the venue and theme when selecting her attire, ensuring it reflects the tone of the day while remaining elegant and comfortable.”

Keep in mind, that every couple and their family dynamics are different. Your approach to communication and coordination should reflect the unique relationship the couple has with the mother of the groom. Remember to always be gracious as this day is likely quite important to her as well, but be firm in your boundaries to avoid parental wedding conflict.

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