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Guide to Choosing a First Dance Song

January 25, 2023
Words by Jessie Allen
Photos courtesy of Chris J. Evans

Your first dance as a married couple is a special moment that you’ll remember forever, so it’s important to choose a song that fits the occasion. Here are a few tips to help you find the perfect song for your first dance.

Think about the style of music that you and your partner both enjoy.

It’s important to choose a song that you both love so that you can enjoy the moment together. If you’re not sure what kind of music you both like, try thinking about the songs that have special meaning to both of you. Maybe there’s a song that you both danced to at a concert or a song that played during a special moment in your relationship.

Consider the tempo and rhythm of the song.

The tempo of the song should be slow enough that you can dance comfortably, but not so slow that it feels like a funeral march. If you’re not sure about the tempo, you can check the beats per minute (BPM) of a song to get an idea of how fast or slow it is. You can find BPM information on websites like

Listen to the lyrics of the song.

You want to choose a song that has lyrics that are meaningful to you and your partner. The lyrics should reflect the love and commitment that you share, and they should be appropriate for the occasion. Avoid lyrics that are too sad or too risqué.

Don’t hesitate to think outside the box.

There’s no rule that says your first dance has to be a traditional ballad. You can choose a song that’s upbeat and fun, as long as it’s meaningful to both of you. For example, you could choose a song from a favorite movie or TV show that you both enjoy.

Ask your DJ/band for guidance!

If you’re still not sure what song to choose, you can also consider hiring a DJ or a band that can help you select the perfect song. They can recommend songs that they think will be a good fit, and they can also help you create a playlist that will keep your guests dancing all night long.

Don’t forget to practice the dance.

Dancing in front of a crowd can be nerve-wracking, so it’s important to practice dancing to your chosen song beforehand. This will help you feel more comfortable and confident on the big day.

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